Marlee K Bruinsma, Civil Marriage Celebrant 0438 144 269
I give you tips to write your own vows and choices of other vows for inspiration or use. You can adapt these to make them personal to you and add you own special touches - romantic or quirky,with a touch of fun and a pinch of sweetness.
If you aren’t the mushy type, you can have vows that are short and to the point as well. It really is your choice.
In Australia, you need to include certain words in your vows to make your marriage legal and then you can add your personal vows.
Some couples write their vows separately to share on their wedding day and some share the same vow with each other - it’s really a personal choice.
Your vows are one of the most important parts of your wedding ceremony and I give you lots of support and ideas to make sure you are happy with them.
Sand ceremonies are a popular choice for weddings, especially if a couple has children. You can also involve parents in your sand ceremony, pouring sand to represent the foundation of love your families have provided to each of you through life and their continuing support of your marriage. Or your children. There are a wide range of colours now and you can pour colours that symbolically represent qualities that you would like to infuse your marriage with, for example, orange for optimism, blue for peace, red for passion... You can find some interesting containers at op shops or some specialty sand ceremony containers through wedding suppliers. At a Christmas time wedding I did for one couple with children, they used a Christmas tree shaped bottle and poured glitter instead of sand - a lot of fun!
Handfasting ceremonies (“tying the knot”) are a great way to add interest to your ceremony. You can involve family or friends in laying ribbons across your hands, before all their wishes and love are tied together in a handfasting knot that is kept tied to symbolise your lives joining in marriage.
The rose, a symbol of love, can be used in your ceremony, again using colours such as white to represent your pure intentions, red to represent love. You can also involve your children in your rose ceremony, a symbol of your love for them.
A wine ceremony can work particularly well when marrying at a vineyard but you can include it no matter where you marry. There are many versions of the wine ceremony, including one where you seal love letters to each other into a box with a bottle of wine to share on your first, or another, anniversary. You can toast each other with wine and then include a toast from your guests at the end of the ceremony if you like. The cup of wine represents life and all that it contains - the sweet and the bitter - and remembering to celebrate the fine things that life together brings.
In this ceremony, one partner drops coins into the other partner’s hands, symbolising the promise to help provide for each other and your partner drops the coins back into your hands, symbolising sharing your earnings and wealth and working together for your future.
The cord, in a figure of eight, is looped over the shoulders of the couple, symbolising infinity and unity.
There are many candle ceremonies, from unity ceremonies where each family lights a candle, then passes on that love and light to their children, the couple, who then light their own family candle, symbolising the joining of the two families. You can light a single marriage candle or a candle to remember a loved one whose love lives on in your hearts.
Provide cards for your guests to write their wishes and hopes for your future and a tree to hang them on. These provide a reminder of your wedding day and the tree symbolises growth, shelter, shade and strength.
There are many other interesting rituals to include in your ceremony or together we can create one especially for your wedding.
You don’t have to include a ritual in your ceremony but if any appeal to you, it is a great way of personalising your ceremony. I can develop a ritual to suit your wedding or personalise a traditional ritual too. Rituals are a point of interest for guests and often result in a keepsake of your ceremony.
Rob and I thoroughly enjoyed the rose ceremony. We felt it was special, honest and something we will continue to reflect on. Marlee we had wonderful feedback from our guests about the relaxed yet very romantic ceremony you performed. Thank you for making it such a wonderful day.
Rob and Leia
Our vows were beautifully presented. Marlee, you provided an excellent service to both Nicole and myself. The ceremony wouldn’t have been the same or as great without your input. Thank you
James and Nicola
Dear Marlee, thank you for the wonderful ceremony you performed for us. All our guests complimented our unique approach. Many of them had never seen a handfasting and were impressed with the beauty and simplicity. Thank you for helping us celebrate our marriage. We had a wonderful day. With great appreciation and all our love.
Robert and Megan
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